Update – Mets Activate Jose Reyes

Get your popcorn and fold-able chair ready ladies and gents.  The New York Mets have announced they are activating Jose Reyes.

On the final day of October last fall, Jose Reyes allegedly grabbed his wife, Katherine Ramirez, by the throat in their Hawaii hotel room and shoved her into a sliding door. The incident left Ramirez, according to a police report, with injuries to her neck, the side of her body, and her wrist. Reyes was arrested on misdemeanor charges of abusing a family member.

Eight months later, those remain the sole details we know of that day. Charges against Reyes were dropped because Ramirez refused to return to the state to cooperate with prosecutors. While Major League Baseball dispensed investigators to the locale, they did not reveal the contents of their investigation. But commissioner Rob Manfred did punish Reyes with a 51-game suspension — the second-longest of three punishments MLB has meted out under its 10-month-old domestic violence policy.

Prepare for the boos.  The cheers.  The Op-Eds.  Many of them from this very site.  Sadly, we all deep down, knew this day would arrive sooner or later.  Although Reyes’ abilities are in decline (He can still hit a little, however as I’m told by you very readers, his defense has turned to shit.), he is still good enough to tempt a desperate, misguided team into acquiring his services.  Of course, the topic of Reyes’ return will be a much discussed one.  Should a player who committed such a terrible act be banned from working again?  Is that right?  He was punished, and served his punishment, and while we can all debate the appropriateness of said punishment, and can bring up how he very clearly escaped proper legal persecution, is it right to completely ban him from baseball?

“It’s really concerning,” says Matson, co-director of a reproductive rights organization. “There’s a part of me that just feels incredibly sad that at the end of the day baseball is a business. And I get attached to players that come and go, but it’s business decisions that come and go who is on the roster. Period. So let’s talk about the fact that in 2016 there’s still highly paid people making a business decision that someone with this public track record on domestic violence is considered a profitable asset.

“It’s stunning to think about that. That’s just where we are.”

So what should be done about it?  Should MLB have completely banned Reyes from returning?  Should all the teams have blackballed him?

Still, as she expresses her indignation, Matson comes to a stop when asked if Reyes should be able to play again. This is where the policy-making of punishing domestic violence jars with the morality of it. Where her life as a victim meets her experience as an advocate.

“While it seems really good to say ‘Oh, you should be banned from the sport entirely’ – and there’s a part of me that’s right there – but from a victim advocacy standpoint what makes me very uncomfortable about that is that actually places an incredible burden on people who may be abused,” she says. “It might actually put them more at risk because if your abuser is caught, whether or not it’s your fault, there’s something much bigger at risk. You hear about this at victim advocacy community — if their abuser loses their job not only are they at more risk because the abuser is at home more, but also that anger may come out at them.

“I just want to throw that out there that it feels really satisfying to say that people should be barred and on a certain level I believe that, and yet, on that, I’m afraid of constructing black or white policies that might in fact place victims in more danger.”

Zero-Tolerance policies are troublesome, because they actually increase the risk to those that are abused.  You see, if a player knows that once 911 is dialed, their career is over, the risks of homicide shoots through the roof.

So no matter what you think of the person Jose Reyes is, remember that sadly, the situation is not as cut and dry as we may desire it to be.  We may all want Reyes to go the hell away and never come back, he still has a right to go back to work.  Of course we have the right to boo him and remind him every opportunity what a piece of crap he really is.  Just don’t ever forget what happened last fall.  Don’t forget when Reyes gets a game winning RBI that he is an abuser and doesn’t deserve our admiration or respect.


ScoutsUpdate:  Reyes received a standing ovation upon his return to the Mets.  New York, you disgust me.


 

ScoutsUpdate: Thanks for making it even easier to hate New York fans.  Granted not all are bad, but holy shit, this is just offensive and disgusting.

“What he did during the offseason is none of my personal business,” said fan Joe Devine as he walked toward the stadium. “If he beat on his wife, none of my personal business. He wants to play baseball, let him play baseball.

“If he can hit, fine,” Devine added.

ReyesSign

“I didn’t want him back considering what he did, but he seemed to be regretful and he seemed to be sincere so he’s worth giving a second chance,” said Nancy Kelly, 55, a yoga instructor from Northport, L.I.

Well it’s nice that he regrets brutally beating his wife, grabbing her by the throat, and slamming her into a glass door.  Good for him.  What a swell guy.

“Domestic violence kills thousands of women every year and it’s time professional sports actually takes it seriously,” City Council Speaker Melissa Mark-Viverito said after the Reyes signing. “The Mets should be ashamed.”

Ashamed does not even begin to describe how Met fans should be feeling right now.

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9 thoughts on “Update – Mets Activate Jose Reyes

  1. My short answer is I don’t know. However, there is a very substantial problem in this country with male emotional health. The risk of homicide shooting through the roof, the abuse itself, the way women are treated (even well into domestic policies regarding them)…to me just about all of this stems from the points made in this article I found this morning. I can’t help but think that, if men were more emotionally healthy, they wouldn’t do what Reyes did, or what Chapman did, or what Josh Lueke did, or what countless athletes have done (never mind, for a moment, the countless bombings and shootings).

    (The article has to do with white males living in the US, though it could easily be applied elsewhere)

    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/10/education/edlife/teaching-men-to-be-emotionally-honest.html

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  2. Well, let’s be honest. Reyes isn’t going to be poor even if he doesn’t get another job. We wouldn’t be condemning his wife to a life of poverty if he can’t work. That’s not the situation here. So, I don’t think it’s necessarily harmful to treat rich athletes different than average joes. And, I’m super put off by any policy that’s about making it easier for victims to stay with their abusers. That’s a good goal, why? I mean, if dude isn’t going to get help and she’s not in a safe place, why do we want to make it better for her to stick around? Wouldn’t victims be better served if we put all of our efforts into getting them to safe living situations and treatment for all parties? Frankly, I don’t think that we approach it this way when men are the victims.

    But, here’s another consideration: if you take away the man’s ability to support his wife/victim, what’s to keep her from saying screw it then and going out on her own? I mean if that breaks her dependence on him financially…. How about we have programs to get women into living wage jobs? I know that would’ve helped me starting over.

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  3. Just like to add that this was my response to a Tigers tweet promoting K-Rod:

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    • Yeah, seriously. I don’t know how people can actually cheer people like this. I heard on Intentional Talk that Reyes is contrite and he’s trying to be a better man, which if true is a good thing, but his actions from here on out will be much louder than any words.

      But I still don’t get it. It’s not like they’re cheering Reyes’ 82 OPS+ last year. They’re cheering the fact that he’s back on the team, I suppose, hearkening back to when he was a better player. But that’s just it: they’re putting team over domestic abuse. It’s disgusting and totally sends the wrong message, particularly to kids.

      Dave O’Brien has been bringing up Manny Ramirez’ stats recently. As if we’ve all forgotten that Manny was busted TWICE for PEDs and assaulted a team secretary.

      And, as always, Josh Lueke is a rapist.

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      • You know, it took me awhile to be okay with Miggy, and I’ll tell you that part of me still doesn’t trust him. He’s not had any more incidents in years and seems to be dealing with whatever his problems were positively. Still, if there was another incident, I’d be disappointed but not defensive about him. And, I was probably one of the worst critics of Evan Reed around. There’s a reason I wear team gear but not individual’s. I do think guys can rehabilitate themselves, but it requires time and work to prove — and simply retaking the field is NOT that. Acknowledging your failure and doing the work of fixing yourself are necessary steps. I have to see that — which is why I cut K-Rod no slack. He would have been convicted if he hadn’t messed with the witnesses and has dodged responsibility for his actions. He has learned no lessons and it gives me no pleasure to win with his participation.

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        • I have little but contempt for a man who would abuse his spouse.

          But, as said elsewhere, I find as I get older that I am a sucker for the possibility of redemption in everyone’s life. Perhaps Reyes is there. I will sincerely hope so.

          Besides (if I am not getting ahead of the actual information) today we have Jung Ho Kang to loathe.

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        • My problem with that is it still mostly focuses on the guy. Where is all the concern for Reyes’ wife and how she (and the kids) are doing? I think that’s supposed to be the #1 concern, and after that’s assured, we worry about his comeback.

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        • Which, by the way, the policy does nothing to let us know about. I mean, if you want it to be about rehabilitation rather than punishment, it seems like publicizing the latter and not the former isn’t helpful. But, then you get into their privacy and all that. We just still don’t have a good way to approach this. I’m hoping for evolution.

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